This Is Why You Don’t Need People’s Validation

Own Your Worth

Aeyrel Twone
3 min readJul 15, 2023
Photo by Vika Strawberrika on Unsplash

I want to talk about something that has been on my mind lately: the notion of seeking validation from others. Trust me, I’ve been down that road before, constantly craving the approval and validation of those around me. But let me tell you, I’ve come to realize that we don’t need it. We really don’t.

You see, seeking validation from others is like building a shaky foundation for your self-worth. It’s like placing your happiness and sense of worthiness in the hands of someone else. And guess what? That’s not a solid strategy for long-term contentment. It’s time to break free from the chains of external validation and embrace our inherent worthiness, just as we are.

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that true validation comes from within. It starts with self-acceptance and self-love. We are all unique individuals with our own quirks, strengths, and weaknesses. Embracing our authentic selves, flaws and all, is a powerful act of self-validation. It’s about recognizing that our worth is not determined by the opinions of others, but by our own self-perception.

When we constantly seek validation from others, we give away our power. We let external opinions dictate our self-worth and happiness. But here’s the truth: people’s opinions are subjective and ever-changing. What one person praises today, another may criticize tomorrow. So why put so much weight on something so unpredictable?

Instead of relying on external validation, let’s focus on cultivating our own self-worth. Let’s celebrate our achievements, big or small, and acknowledge our efforts and growth. Let’s set goals and challenge ourselves, not to impress others, but to fulfill our own aspirations and dreams. When we prioritize our own validation, we build a solid foundation for self-confidence and inner fulfillment.

Another reason why seeking validation is a losing game is that it hinders our authenticity. When we constantly seek approval, we may find ourselves conforming to others’ expectations, suppressing our true selves in the process. But guess what? The world needs our unique voices, ideas, and perspectives. By embracing our authenticity and staying true to ourselves, we inspire others to do the same.

Letting go of the need for validation also liberates us from comparison. When we stop seeking validation from others, we no longer feel the need to measure up to their standards. We can focus on our own journey, our own progress, and our own happiness. Comparison becomes irrelevant when we embrace our individuality and appreciate our own worthiness.

So, let’s free ourselves from the chains of seeking validation. Let’s embrace our authentic selves, celebrate our achievements, and trust our own judgment. Remember, you are worthy, valuable, and deserving of love and happiness, regardless of what others may think or say. Embrace your uniqueness, follow your passions, and shine your light bright for the world to see. You don’t need people’s validation. You have your own, and it’s more than enough.



Aeyrel Twone

Hi, I'm Aeyrel. I'm a writer and storyteller with a passion for exploring the world around me. I love to write about my experiences and turn them into stories.